Don't Be Lonely!

As a Stay At Home Mom, you can quickly grow to feel isolated from the outside world. Although you love your kids and want to stay at home with them, there are times when you long for the sound of an adult voice or someone to talk to about grown-up things. The days seem to fly by in a whirl of activity---cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of the children, playing with the children...all the 1001 things that fill your busy life. You don't really feel that you can find the time to mix and mingle with someone your own age because you have so much to do running your household.

Find it! Find the time, one way or the other. It's important that you don't isolate yourself from the rest of the world. You need to make time, carve out a slot somewhere in your schedule to spend interacting with other human beings besides your kids.

Socializing with others, spending time with friends and family, is essential to emotional and mental health. If you spend all your hours with your kids, no matter how much you care for them or how funny and entertaining they may be, you'll grow stale as a person. This is not good.

You're a mom, but you're an adult, too. You want and need to discuss adult things occasionally. You need someone to talk to about things that adults talk about. So, make it a habit to take even a few minutes every day and spend them in conversation with someone you enjoy talking with.

Ideally, you can get out and go to lunch with a friend, or meet over coffee somewhere for a little while. But if that isn't possible, invite a friend or relative over and have coffee and a nice visit at your house. Or reach out and touch someone by picking up the phone and calling somebody for a good old fashioned chat. You'll find yourself feeling relaxed, refreshed and rejuvenated if you do!

By denying yourself the very real need for adult companionship and friends, you'll grow to feel trapped and resentful. You'll also become lonely, and if you find yourself down at the end of Lonely Street, it won't be a fun place to be. Loneliness can lead to depression, among other equally unpleasant things. It can affect your state of mind, your moods, your feelings of self worth; make you feel bored and boring. It can cause insomnia, loss of appetite, even affect your blood pressure and heart rate. Even if you're in a good, committed romantic relationship, you still need the social bonding of friends to share your thoughts and feelings with. Research tells us that although physical exercise, diet, relaxation and good health all contribute to our feelings of well-being, the strongest factor of all is social support.

So, make time in your busy life for your friends and/or family members who can offer you the social support you require for a happy, healthy lifestyle. If you don't have any of the above---get some! Join a club or some group of people with like interests and make friends! No man is an island, we're told. No woman and SAHM is an island, either. We all need other people in our lives!

Don't isolate yourself. Don't be lonely!